Books, links, and resources about polyamory


	Polyamory Links & Resources
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Last update 18-June-2008

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Want to find out more about polyamory? Here are some links to visit.

Polyamory Weekly
Headquarters for the Polyamory Weekly Podcast, a weekly talk show on all things poly. Includes listener call-ins and interviews with many people in the poly community.

PolyTampa
Web site for the Tampa, Florida-based poly group.

Polyamorous Percolations
An extensive "portal site" containing articles, links, a poly message board, forums, and so on.

The Ordinary Extraordinary
A Weblog and journal of a polyamorous couple and their lives.

Poly Friend Finder
A dating and matchmaking Web site for people seeking honest, ethical non-monogamous relationships.

Polyamory Chat
Web-based chatroom for polyamory discussion.

Poly in the Media
This blog tracks references to polyamory and articles about polyamory in news media.

The Polyamorous Misanthrope
Rants, Raves and Polyamorous Edification for the Whole Family. An often-updated collection of essays on practical, no-nonsense, hands-on polyamory.

The Inn Between: Polyamory Pages
Essays, safe-sex articles, advice on "coming out" poly, and other resources for polyamorous people, written by a partner of mine.

Loving More
The only nationwide magazine dedicated to polyamory, Loving More also hosts conferences and poly retreats throughout the country.

Polyamory for the Practical
Large and frequently-updated site maintained by the members of a long-term poly family. Includes a poly Web comic, and RSS feeds. Note: Still available but no longer updated.

Unitarian Universalists for Poly Awareness
A Web site an organization for Unitarian Universalists interested in polyamory; the UUPA also runs an email list.

How to Educate your Therapist About Polyamory
Guidelines for talking to a counsellor or therapist about poly-related issues.

Therapy with Clients who are Bisexual and Polyamorous
Written for therapists, this page discusses therapy in a bisexual and poly context.

Musings on Bisexuality, Polyamory, Jealousy, Activism
Some clear, intelligent thoughts on polyamory, jealousy, and related issues.

Polyamory Index
The polyamory sextion of sexuality.org. Resources, writings, and so on.

Some Thoughts on Polyamory
A balanced, well-reasoned rant on the subject--if "balanced" and "well-reasoned" can be said to go along with a rant. Includes a bit of ranting on the subject of some people who claim to be poly but shouldn't.

poly southeast
A Web site designed to foster increased communication, networking and support between polyamorous folks in the southeastern US.

Polyamory Society
News, information, discussion, and resources, particularly for people who aren't necessarily poly but know people who are.

Subspace
A site for those who, like me, practice both BDSM and polyamory. Contains a poly BDSM message board, as well as other resources.

Poly Meaning
A personal essay on what polyamory means, and the distinction between polyamory and swinging.

PolyMatchMaker
A poly-focused dating and forum site.

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And while we're at it, some books on the subject.
	Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino Part anecdote, part interviews with poly couples, part advice, this wonderful book is an outstanding answer to the question "So how do you make non-monogamy work, anyway?" Through interviews with folks practicing a wide variety of different forms of non-monogamy, this book covers several styles of polyamory, swinging, and even polyamory for single people. There's a companion blog as well.
	Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny Block This book is a personal narrative of one "average girl next door" who just so happens to be in an open relationship. The book covers the ins and outs of her own relationship, the lessons she's learned along the way, and examines why its still more socially acceptable to cheat than to be polyamorous.
	Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful by Anthony Ravenscroft Written with humor, wit, and style by a person with twenty years' experience in polyamorous relationships, this book is a guidebook to the benefits, pitfalls, mistakes, and rewards of a poly life. Covers many of the mistakes the author has made without flinching, and lays out a roadmap for successful polyamorous relationships.
	The Sex And Love Handbook: Polyamory! Bisexuality! Swingers! Spirituality! & Even Monogamy! A Practical Optimistic Relationship Guide by Kris A. Heinlein and Rozz M. Heinlein This book, an overview of many relationship styles and sexual practices, explores the emotions, philosophies, risks and rewards of non-traditional sexual and romantic relationships. Written in an optimistic, enthusiastic style, it presents a wide range of relationship models engagingly and honestly.
	Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships by Wendy-O Matik This book explores the realities of day-in, day-out non-monogamy, particularly as a conscious political and social act. It's direct, in your face, and offers excellent insight on managing problems like jealousy.
	The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infedelity in Animals and People by David P. Barash and Judith Eve Lipton Written by a husband and wife team of behavioral scientists, this book explores non-monogamy from a behavioral, genetic, and moral standpoint. The book is not hostile to monogamy, but it makes the statement that in humans, relationship model is a matter of both biology and choice, and that monogamy is not more inherently "natural" than non-monogamy.
	The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine Lizst Considered by many people to be one of the definitive guides to "responsible non-monogamy." While it does not really discuss polyamory per se, but rather polysexuality--the practice of multiple sexual partners in an ethical framework--this book is a good read for anyone interested in polyamory. Published by Greenery Press.
	The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles by Rev.Ronald M. Mazur This book advertises itself as "for non-traditionalists, those ready for new life and love affirmations." The Rev. Dr. Ron Mazur has been an ordained minister, a university health educator, a clinical sexologist in private practice, and a pioneer in computer on-line networks.
	The Lesbian Polyamory Reader by Marcia Munson and Judith P. Stelboum (Editors) A collection of stories, poetry, and essays on non-monogamous lesbian relationships, together with descriptions of solid frameworks for ethical non-monogamy.
	Monogamy by Adam Phillips Written by a psychologist, this book examines the traditional concept of marriage in a society where divorce is altogether common.
	Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits by Dr. Deborah T. Anapol This book focuses more on polyfidelity than on other kinds of polyamory, with a heavy emphasis on New Age spirituality, and is often recommended by those who combine polyamory and spirituality.
	The Seven Natural Laws of Love by Dr. Deborah T. Anapol This book draws from thousands of interviews to try to create a set of rules which govern all loving relationships regardless of their form.
	Lesbian Polyfidelity: A Pleasure Guide for all Women Whose Hearts are Open to Multiple Sexual Loves by Celeste West Recommended by an online visitor; I don't know much about this book personally, but it's received excellent reviews.